You are putting yourself out there, trying to be open and find love. It feels like everyone on the dating apps is either avoidant, untrustworthy or there is not chemistry. Here is why, and how to feel more empowered in dating.

This is a very real and valid concern. When you’ve been hurt before, your nervous system becomes attuned to danger—even when none is present. What feels like a warning could actually be a trigger. So how do you learn to tell the difference between your wise, intuitive voice and your anxiety shouting from past wounds?

Let’s break it down.