Discernment Support
Whether you are considering a separation of a relationship or adding to the relationship, we can help support this decision and help guide you through make the best course of action for you and your family!
New!Discernment Couples Support
When love asks you to
choose a new path
A compassionate, spiritually grounded space for couples navigating one of life's most tender crossroads — whether that's separation, opening your relationship, or reimagining the structure of your partnership.
We understand
This is one of the hardest moments in love
You may be carrying the weight of a decision that feels impossible. The love may still be there, but something fundamental has shifted — and you both know it. You deserve more than confusion, silence, or pressure to "just decide."
Considering Separation or Divorce
One or both of you may be wondering if the relationship has run its course. You need space to explore that question without judgment, urgency, or premature conclusions.
Exploring an Open Relationship
The desire to open your relationship has surfaced — and with it, a thousand questions about safety, trust, jealousy, and what love can look like. We help you navigate this with honesty and care.
Restructuring Your Partnership
Maybe what you need isn't an ending — but a transformation. Shifting from romantic to co-parenting, from cohabitation to living apart together, or from monogamy to something more expansive.
What This Work Is
Discernment is not couples therapy
This is not about fixing your relationship — it's about understanding it deeply enough to make a clear, empowered decision about its future.
Discernment support creates a container where both partners can honestly explore where they stand — individually and together — without pressure to save, fix, or leave.
Our work is spiritually grounded, trauma-informed, and rooted in attachment science. We bring both clinical depth and soulful care to help you move forward with wisdom and peace.
Is This for You?
This space is for you if…
- You're both willing to show up, but you're not sure you want the same things anymore
- One of you is leaning in while the other is leaning out — and you need a safe space to be honest about that
- You've been thinking about divorce or separation but feel afraid, guilty, or uncertain
- Someone has expressed interest in opening the relationship and you need support exploring what that means
- You want to change the structure of your partnership but don't know how to do it with care and respect
- You want guidance that honors both partners' truths — not one that pressures you to stay or leave
- You're looking for a holistic approach that addresses mind, body, and spirit — not just surface-level problem solving
A Truly Safe & Inclusive Space
We honor all love and all relationship structures. Whether you are in a traditional marriage, a queer relationship, a polyamorous dynamic, or something beautifully your own — you are welcome here exactly as you are.
Our work is free from judgment, religious pressure, or assumptions about what your relationship "should" look like. We believe the healthiest decision is the one that is true for you.
What This Is Not
This is not a space that will pressure you to stay together or push you toward divorce. It is not about assigning blame. It is not traditional couples therapy where the goal is always repair. This is discernment — where the goal is clarity.
The Journey
How we walk beside you
Our discernment process is intentional, gentle, and structured — designed to create safety while honoring the complexity of what you're navigating.
Free Consultation
A warm, confidential conversation to understand where you both are, what's on your hearts, and whether discernment support feels like the right fit. No pressure, no commitment.
Individual & Joint Sessions
We work with you both together and individually — creating space for each person's inner truth to be heard without defensiveness. We explore attachment patterns, unspoken needs, and the deeper currents beneath the surface.
Clarity & Empowered Next Steps
As clarity emerges, we help you move forward — whether that means reconnecting with new awareness, separating with grace and mutual respect, or designing a new relationship structure that honors both of you.
Our Approach
Rooted in science. Led by spirit.
Attachment Science
We help you understand the deeper nervous system patterns driving your connection and disconnection.
Somatic Awareness
Your body holds wisdom. We integrate body-based practices to help you access what your mind alone cannot.
Spiritual Grounding
We honor the sacred dimension of relationships, helping you tune into your intuition and inner knowing.
Compassionate Honesty
We create a space where truth can be spoken gently, heard fully, and held with grace — even when it's hard.
You don't have to have all the answers to begin. You just need to be willing to listen — to yourself, to each other, and to what love is asking of you now.
Common Questions
What you may be wondering
What if only one of us wants to come?
That's okay. We can begin with individual discernment work and explore whether involving your partner makes sense over time. The process meets you where you are.
Is this therapy or coaching?
Our discernment support lives under the Healing Hearts Wellness Center umbrella as a self-pay coaching and spiritual guidance offering. It is designed by trained therapists and trauma specialists, but operates outside of insurance frameworks to give us the freedom to work holistically.
How long does discernment take?
Every couple's journey is unique. Some find clarity within a few sessions; others benefit from a longer, deeper process. We never rush you. The timeline honors your pace.
What if we decide to open our relationship?
We offer continued support for couples choosing to explore ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, or other relationship structures. We help you navigate this transition with communication tools, boundary setting, and emotional safety.
What if we decide to separate?
We support conscious uncoupling — helping you part with dignity, compassion, and mutual care. If children are involved, we offer guidance for co-parenting transitions that protect their emotional safety.
Do you support LGBTQIA+ couples?
Absolutely and wholeheartedly. We honor all love, all identities, and all relationship configurations. You are seen and celebrated here exactly as you are.
You deserve clarity, not confusion
Whatever your heart is telling you, we're here to help you listen. Start with a free, no-pressure consultation — and let's find the path forward together.
Book Your Free ConsultationGuide@HealingHeartsLove.com · (301) 882-8848
613 Ridgely Avenue, Annapolis, MD 21401